Today I received an email forward that actually contains something interesting. It tells the story of police officer and little girl (she is 14 years old). The police officer was able to find the girl without getting data from police databases. All he used was either the data freely available on the child’s profile or the information he got from the girl herself during their friendly online chats. Of course this email is probably a hoax (meaning it described the situation that didn’t happen in the real life), but at least this was a useful hoax for once.
It’s worth to share it with your children, because it can help you to explain to them once and for all why it’s not a good idea to talk in the virtual world about the details of their personal lives that could be used to identify them in real world.
The virtual reality provides the false feeling of safety and anonimity, where many memebrs of social networking sites share tons of personal information in their profiles, and of course they like to chat and give away even more information during those conversations.
In this particular example, girl thought that her online friend was a teenager, and he lived far away from her, so she was rather relaxed and shared with him such details as the name of her softball team, her place in this team, etc. After all, the “boy” doesn’t know her real name and he doesn’t live in her town… And why did she thought that he was a teenage boy and lived in another state? Because he said so…
This story is probably not real (I’ve yet to hear about the special police officers that are hunting [tag]online predators[/tag]), but it could happen in real life. It’s absolutely realistic for online predator to find the girl based on all the information that police officer was able to collect in a short period of time. And it would be great if such police department would be organized in real life.
Ok, here is the story as I received it. Unfortunately there was no name so I don’t know whom to credit for this great educational piece that could save your children:
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“EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ ALL OF THIS and HAVE CHILDREN READ IT TOO!
After tossing her books on the sofa, she decided to grab a snack and get on-line. She logged on under her screen name ByAngel213. She checked her Buddy List and saw GoTo123 was on. She sent him an instant message:
ByAngel213:
Hi. I’m glad you are on! I thought someone was following me home today. It was really weird!
GoTo123:
LOL You watch too much TV. Why would someone be following you?
Don’t you live in a safe neighborhood?
ByAngel213:
Of course I do. LOL I guess it was my imagination cuz’ I didn’t see anybody when I looked out.
GoTo123:
Unless you gave your name out on-line. You haven’t done that have you?
ByAngel213:
Of course not. I’m not stupid you know.
GoTo123:
Did you have a softball game after school today?
ByAngel213:
Yes and we won!!
GoTo123:
That’s great! Who did you play?
ByAngel213:
We played the Hornets. LOL. Their uniforms are so gross! They look like bees. LOL
GoTo123:
What is your team called?
ByAngel213:
We are the Canton Cats. We have tiger paws on our uniforms. They are really cool.
GoTo1 23:
Did you pitch?
ByAngel213:
No I play second base. I got to go. My homework has to be done before my parents get home. I don’t want them mad at me. Bye!
GoTo123:
Catch you later. Bye
Meanwhile…….GoTo123 went to the member menu and began to search for her profile. When it came up, he highlighted it and printed it out. He took out a pen and began to write down what he knew about Angel so far.
Her name: Shannon
Birthday: Jan. 3, 1985
Age: 13
State where she lived: North Carolina
Hobbies: softball, chorus, skating and going to the mall. Besides this information, he knew she lived in Canton because she had just told him. He knew she stayed by herself until 6:30 p.m. every afternoon until her parents came home from work.
He knew she played softball on Thursday afternoons on the school team, and the team was named the Canton Cats. Her favorite number 7 was printed on her jersey. He knew she was in the eighth grade at the Canton Junior High School . She had told him all this in the conversations they had on- line. He had enough information to find her now.
Shannon didn’t tell her parents about the incident on the way home from the ballpark that day. She didn’t want them to make a scene and stop her from walking home from the softball games. Parents were always overreacting and hers were the worst. It made her wish she was not an only child. Maybe if she had brothers and sisters, her parents wouldn’t be so overprotective.
By Thursday, Shannon had forgotten about the footsteps following her.
Her game was in full swing when suddenly she felt someone staring at her. It was then that the memory came back. She glanced up from her second base position to see a man watching her closely.
He was leaning against the fence behind first base and he smiled when she looked at him. He didn’t look scary and she quickly dismissed the sudden fear she had felt.
After the game, he sat on a bleacher while she talked to the coach. She noticed his smile once again as she walked past him. He nodded and she smiled back. He noticed her name on the back of her shirt. He knew he had found her.
Quietly, he walked a safe distance behind her. It was only a few blocks to Shannon ’s home, and once he saw where she lived he quickly returned to the park to get his car.
Now he had to wait. He decided to get a bite to eat until the time came to go to Shannon ’s house. He drove to a fast food restaurant and sat there until time to make his move.
Shannon was in her room later that evening when she heard voices in the living room.
‘ Shannon , come here,’ her father called. He sounded upset and she couldn’t imagine why.
She went into the room to see the man from the ballpark sitting on the sofa.
‘Sit down,’ her father began, ‘this man has just told us a most interesting story about you.’
Shannon sat back. How could he tell her parents anything? She had never seen him before today!
‘Do you know who I am, Shannon ?’ the man asked.
‘No,’ Shannon answered.
‘I am a police officer and your online friend, GoTo123.’
Shannon was stunned. ‘That’s impossible! GoTo is a kid my age! He’s 14. And he lives in Michigan !’
The man smiled. ‘I know I told you all that, but it wasn’t true. You see, Shannon , there are people on-line who pretend to be kids; I was one of them. But while others do it to injure kids and hurt them, I belong to a group of parents who do it to protect kids from predators. I came here to find you to teach you how dangerous it is to talk to people on-line. You told me enough about yourself to make it easy for me to find you. You named the school you went to, the name of your ball team and the position you played. The number and name on your jersey just made finding you a breeze.’
Shannon was stunned. ‘You mean you don’t live in Michigan ?’
He laughed. ‘No, I live in Raleigh . It made you feel safe to think I was so far away, didn’t it?’
She nodded.
‘I had a friend whose daughter was like you. Only she wasn’t as lucky. The guy found her and murdered her while she was home alone. Kids are taught not to tell anyone when they are alone, yet they do it all the time on-line. The wrong people trick you into giving out information a little here and there on-line. Before you know it, you have told them enough for them to find you without even realizing you have done it. I hope you’ve learned a lesson from this and won’t do it again. Tell others about this so they will be safe too?’
‘It’s a promise!’
That night Shannon and her Dad and Mom all knelt down together and thanked God for protecting Shannon from what could have been a tragic situation.”
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As you can see, girl could be in serious danger. In addition to telling the stranger all that identifiable information she also told him that she’s home alone until particular time (6:30 pm in this example).
Internet is a powerful tool that brought a lot of convinience in our lives. But it also generated new types of danger that were not existing before. And it’s your responsibility as a parent to protect your child from them.
So if you still don’t know what your children are doing online, you better check it out.
At the same time don’t forget about offline predators who can meet with your child face to face. If your child is educated and knows what to do and how to react in dangerous situation, s/he is more prepared, and has better chance to avoid trouble.
To help you with this task, I’m glad to give you “17 Proven Time Tested Safety Secrets To Protect Your Child From Sexual Predators“, the report written by Preston Jones and Joyce Jackson. Just right click the link above with a name of the report in it, and you will be able to download it to your computer.